I rarely talk about fighting with my husband, because (a) it’s private and (b) we don’t do it often. While most couples fight about sex, money and the kids (and in recent years, Facebook romances… do you know how many people file for divorce and reference FACEBOOK!?), I think the worst fights we’ve had were about trivial things like what color we should paint the bedroom or why I always insist on rooting for whichever team is playing against the Yankees. The latter makes him IRATE.
One thing we DO fight about is how he just doesn’t care that much about his health or fitness. I know you’re like, “What the &*$# is she talking about? Just the other day she was all about the #FitRomance hashtag and telling us how they love working out together.” Yeah, that’s true, but there’s another facet to that story that I didn’t quite address. Mr. Borucki is super supportive of my career and my fitness lifestyle. He buys and prepares healthy food for the whole family, he travels with me to fitness conferences, and he even works out with me whenever I ask him to (sometimes on video). BUT (this is a big “but”), he really doesn’t CARE about it for himself. He does it for me.
Winter 2008 – 170 lbs. trying to lose weight for my wedding.
NOT the right reason to get in shape.
I work out because I want to enjoy a long life. In fact, I’m still trying to figure out how I can live forever. I have a lot of stuff to get done. I want my husband to have a hot wife and my kids to have a young active mom, but I mostly just want to be strong and vibrant enough to be traveling and partying well into my Golden Girls years. And I want to have someone I love right there with me, not sick or broken down or DEAD. I will NOT be changing adult diapers in my old age because someone *cough, cough* wanted an extra serving of macaroni & cheese. Every once in a while I tell him that if he dies first, I’m going to go cougar and start dating 20-year-olds.
So now our secret is out. We fight. Sometimes we fight really loud. I fight because I love him and want him to be healthy. He fights because he thinks it’s good enough to be doing it for me.
Do YOU have a partner or family member that you argue with about fitness?
Does your partner DISCOURAGE you from getting fit?
Are they jealous or insecure because you’re in better shape?
Are you the only one in your family who’s fit?
We’re still struggling on how to find the perfect way to fit fitness into our own marriage and family life, so I want to hear your stories and perspectives on why YOU want to be fit and how your individual fitness journeys have affected your relationships. I want to know what your friends think, too, so click here to share this blog on twitter. xo
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